"Sorry." he sat up straight on the bed. He moved forward to fill up his plate. He folded his legs together and hummed thoughtfully as he watched Mingjue eat, grabbing at his bowl and filling it up with some of the steamed fish and eating slowly.
"I can imagine. It must be really strange for you. You know him and you know Meng Yao at least, but we are different.
It may. People deal with difficulty differently and being able to open up when you don't know what you are feeling right away can be especially hard.
Back in our world, there was a certain way we had to present, for whatever reason, they vary. However, with sex and physical intimacy involved, there is a sense of emotional vulnerability that comes with it.
Some people use it to not think about everything else going on and just get wrapped in the feeling." Like Jin Guangshan who's whoring got so much worse after Jin Zixuan died. "Some shut down so the actions can be performed, and do what is needed to survive." like his mother who went through so much brutality so that she and her son could live.
"I imagine that this is the first time that Lan Xichen had to think about sex and sexuality as a more real concept than the vague thought of getting married and providing an heir someday. This must have been real and raw for him. As it was for us or at least me, I think.
He gave us his ribbon but there is still a rule against promiscuity in the Lan Doctrine. It'll take time to adjust.
All we can do is be there when he is ready and has figured out how he is feeling. Give each other space but know we can come to the others if we need to."
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Date: 2021-05-25 02:04 am (UTC)"I can imagine. It must be really strange for you. You know him and you know Meng Yao at least, but we are different.
It may. People deal with difficulty differently and being able to open up when you don't know what you are feeling right away can be especially hard.
Back in our world, there was a certain way we had to present, for whatever reason, they vary. However, with sex and physical intimacy involved, there is a sense of emotional vulnerability that comes with it.
Some people use it to not think about everything else going on and just get wrapped in the feeling." Like Jin Guangshan who's whoring got so much worse after Jin Zixuan died. "Some shut down so the actions can be performed, and do what is needed to survive." like his mother who went through so much brutality so that she and her son could live.
"I imagine that this is the first time that Lan Xichen had to think about sex and sexuality as a more real concept than the vague thought of getting married and providing an heir someday. This must have been real and raw for him. As it was for us or at least me, I think.
He gave us his ribbon but there is still a rule against promiscuity in the Lan Doctrine. It'll take time to adjust.
All we can do is be there when he is ready and has figured out how he is feeling. Give each other space but know we can come to the others if we need to."